Lately, I've been particular attention to my thoughts. Why, cos your thoughts become things. We must start to bring awareness to what is running threw our brains. For me, it's in the form of self sabotaging that I don't inflict myself with my own pain of not being whole and complete. Sometimes, I find myself becoming a victim when I obsessed with why so and so didn't like my FB Page when I liked theirs or wondering if anyone will return the favor with the amount of help that I have given them in the past. I simply have to bring awareness to my thoughts and practice the art of letting go. It's an art for sure. It sure is.

"Why do we
Crucify ourselves
Every day
I crucify myself
Nothing I do is good enough for you
Crucify myself
Every day
I crucify myself
My heart is sick of being, I said, my heart is sick of being in chains, oh, oh, chains"

~Tori Amos 

"Not a Victim

You are not a victim.

How deeply ingrained our self-image as a victim can be! How habitual our feelings of misery and helplessness! Victimization cab be like a gray cloak that surrounds us, both attracting that which will victimize us and causing us to be generate the feelings of victimization.

Victimization can be so habitual that we may feel victimized even by the good things that happen to us!

Got a new car? Yes, we sigh, but it doesn't run as well as I expected, and after all, it cos so much....

You got such a nice family! Yes, we sigh, but there are problems. And we've had such hard times...

Well, your career certainly is going well! Ah, we sigh, but there is such a price to pay for success. All that extra paperwork....

I have learned that, if we set our mind to it, we have an incredible, almost awesome ability to find misery in any situation, even the most wonderful of circumstances.

Shoulders bent, head down, we shuffle through life taking our blows.

Be done with it. Take off the gray cloak of despair, negativity, and victimization. Hurl it; let it blow away in the wind.

We are not victims. We may have been victimized. We may have allowed ourselves to be victimized. We may have sought out,  created, or re-created situations that victimized us, be we are not victims.

We can stand in our power. We do not have to allow ourselves to be victimized. We do not have to let others victimize us. We do not have to seek out misery in either the most miserable or the best situations.

We are free to stand in the glow of self-responsibilty.

Set a boundary! Deal with the anger! Tell someone no, or stop that! Walk away from a relationship! Ask for what you need! Make choices and take responsibility for them. Explore options. Give yourself what you need! Stand us straight, head up, and claim your power. Claim responsibility for yourself!

And learn to enjoy what's good!

Today, I will refuse to think, talk, speak, or act like a victim. Instead, I will joyfully claim responsibility for myself and focus on what's good and right in my life."
~Melody Beattie

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